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I was talking to a woman the other day who had just applied for a dream job at a startup. She wanted so badly to be a product manager, and here was her opportunity to go for it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀As she was finding out more and more details about the position, she started to get nervous.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀She would […]

We literally need to question everything. There are systems at play in our culture that will impact our experience in this world. Patriarchy, sexism, capitalism, white supremacy, colonialism, all of these are real and have real consequences. And they’re not only real out there, they’re also in our own minds. We’ve internalized the massaging. The

My philosophy on coaching women in STEM is that we must take a multi-pronged approach and use all of the tools in our toolbox so that we can create a life that feels as good to live as it looks on paper. Our lives are nuanced and we must often sit with the paradox that

Our brains want us to make decisions based on what it thinks is safe. It tells us to be reasonable. But what constitutes reasonable? Usually it’s a decision that we’ve already been practicing, making over and over again. And that decision making process got you to where you are now. So if you want to

A reminder that just because your leadership doesn’t look like the status quo doesn’t mean that it’s wrong or that you need to change how you show up. It’s ok to be a quiet, introverted leader. Listening deeply is a leadership skill. Feeling deeply is a leadership skill. Reflection is a leadership skill. Empathy is

I want you to know that you’re not broken. As women, we can get caught up trying to fix ourselves. Fix our bodies. Fix our relationships. Fix our careers. Fix our parenting. But wanting to make change from a place of thinking we’re broken is an uphill battle. We can’t hate ourselves into a new

I found myself telling my kid today (not once, not twice, but three times) YOU NEED TO REMEMBER WHO THE PARENT IS IN THIS SITUATION. And ok, maybe that was a little aggressive, but it got me thinking, sometimes we do this to ourselves too! We can be rough with ourselves and controlling to resist

So much of the work I’ve done over the last 7 years has been a process of remembering. I don’t have a ton of memories from my childhood or teen years, but I remember what I enjoyed doing. Incorporating those things back into my life has been the biggest gift that I’ve given myself. Permission

I had a client once that loved the idea of having a morning and evening mindfulness routine, but had a lot of trouble being consistent in doing the practices. When we were discussing what was keeping her from doing the practices in the way that she wanted to, she told me that part of her

Subvert the system. By pressing pause on the tape of the dominant narrative that’s playing in your head. Ask: Is this true? Who benefits when I believe this? The system seeks to make us tools of our own oppression. We end up doing the work to recreate the system within our own minds. Break the