Laura McCaffrey

Coaching

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Success Mindset

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This week I want to talk about success mindset. I know we’re all ambitious, and we have big goals laid out for ourselves.

But sometimes, we get in our own way!

I know that I can get wrapped up in my own thinking and self-sabotage my way to not getting to my desired end point.

This is where developing a success mindset comes in. Based on what I’ve learned through research and my own coaching experiences, my thoughts are what ultimately create my results.

If the thoughts I’m thinking are crap, I’m not going to feel great about what I’m trying to do, and I’m probably not taking the action I need to get the results I want.

To get the results I want, I have to create a positive thought that’s going to drive all the other components to the end goal!

This is how I like to do this:

First, I like to find evidence in my life that I’m capable of success. This can be in any arena of life. Find something you’re proud of.

This reminds yourself that you can do hard things.

Next I think about some setbacks and obstacles that could occur on the way to achieving my goal. I write out each of these and describe how I would handle every single one of them.

Thinking about them ahead of time helps me feel really empowered, and like I’m ready to tackle the tasks ahead of me.

I use these two steps to create that positive thought about my capability to achieve any goal that I have set for myself.

And any time I catch myself thinking the negative thoughts that aren’t helpful, I just tell myself that the thought isn’t useful and purposefully replace it with a positive one. No judgement, just replace it.

Build your own confidence. Your goals are do-able. You can figure anything out.

Are You Trading Yourself For Your Career?

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Just a few short years ago, I used to joke around that being an engineer stole a little piece of my soul.  I felt that it made me hard, and slightly uncaring.

That analytical piece of my mind was always on the go, and I rarely stopped what I was doing to really feel my feelings or think about how my actions at work were impacting other people.

As women in STEM, often we get sent the message that we have to be unfeeling to be successful in the careers that we’ve chosen.

But many of us chose these careers because we care about the impact our work has on the world.  On people.

Being in STEM doesn’t require that you edit out your feelings and compassion.  All STEM asks of you is that you apply logic to solve problems.

We can be ourselves at work and still be exceptional at out jobs.  Emotional intelligence is recognized as one of the biggest predictors of success in any professional field.

Once I integrated my more emotional, intuitive side with my logical side, I found that I was even more effective in my work.

How are you editing out parts of your personality at work?  How can we begin to re-integrate those pieces?

Uncomfy Conversations

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In one of my favorite quotes from Tim Ferris, he says “A person’s success in life can be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have”.

And oh how true I have found this to be!

Early on in my career, I would try and avoid uncomfortable conversations. I felt that I should just suck it up and deal with whatever was going on.

Once I started supervising other people, I had a completely different perspective! Lots of uncomfortable conversations were needed to:

1. Communicate clearly what my expectations were

2. Give feedback (as is expected from a manager)

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3. Have my people’s backs when they needed me. I had to speak up and be an advocate for the people that work for me!

Having uncomfortable conversations as a supervisor helped me, in turn, to be more ok with advocating for myself.

At this point in my career and life, I have to say that I actually enjoy having uncomfortable conversations. I know that if I’m starting to get those butterflies in my stomach I’m on the right track. I’ll only feel better, be more productive, and have better outcomes and understanding on the other side of that conversation.

So here’s what I’ve found works for me in my approach with uncomfortable conversations:

1. If I’m feeling emotionally charged, I’ll take as long as it takes to calm my mind.

2. I think about why this is important (to me personally or to the goal we’re trying to achieve).

3. I think about how to deliver my message with compassion, since the ultimate goals is to have a productive outcome, not to flatten the other person.

4. I think about what my ask is, or what my desired outcome is.

5. Then I go do it.

When I’m nervous, that’s my cue that I need to have that conversation. When it feels like there’s a lot on the line, like there’s potential for me to mess it up, that’s when I push forward because that means it’s important.

And when I’ve had that conversation, I’ve never regretted it.

What uncomfortable conversations do you need to have?